seeing things from people's perspective

quite a big lesson learnt today.
Today's work was rather tiring.
and we're all looking forward to lunch time.
yet the boss ordered: unless we hit the target of 20 people, you all can't go for lunch.
then i think i can see fire on everyone's head. because when we were all preparing to go for lunch, wash hands, take wallet, she said that.
and we only took 19 people at that time.
i was feeling rather okay. but had mixed feelings.
everyone started gossiping. some scolded vulgarities.
i tried so hard so control, try not to join them. but tried to say some neutral statements la.
though i really wanted to make some comments. because it's LUNCH TIME!!
and we all need food. tired and hungry.
she didn't join us for lunch in the end, i guess she could sense the atmosphere.
and everyone was very reluctant to ask her to join us.
so i smsed ziling, telling her everything so i can lessen the urge to gossip. haha. it's quite effective anyway.
then during lunch time i was thinking of it. wandered off and not listening to what others are saying.
actually i also dont know what i'm thinking la. haha.
and so after lunch. not sure why boss brought her laptop and came down at the table.
usually she'll stay upstairs in the aircon to work.
and so when there were only 2 of us, i prayed, remembering the sermon on don't know which sunday, to love ALL saints. (she's a christian from a bible Presbyterian church)
then i started talking to her. throwing away all the bad feelings about her, and try to get to know more about her.
it was rather a good talk la. talking about her family, why she became a christian, how her church works and stuff.
she's a nice person after all.
and she started talking to me about the pressure from this crazy prof.
i wanted to tell her how my colleagues think about her, but decided not to, because i don't know how to say. haha
but it made me think like, everyone were just concerned about their own welfare and neglected to see things from her perspective.
and i suddenly felt quite bad for her. maybe she just doesn't know how to lead people well.
but it's rather difficult to see things from other's perspective maybe because we are self-centered by nature.
anyway, it's quite a good lesson la. i'm quite glad that i didn't handle it in a wrong way.
thank God.